Wednesday, April 22, 2009

illusion!!! or is it ?

considering April is my birth month..i haven done justice to it blog wise...... hmmm anyws i hope i can snatch more of "me" time n get cosy in my space..... 
at times i wonder why do we give ourselves so much to things n people that eventually it hurts us....  is it only me or even u my fellow bloggers go thru this..... its so weird n painful.... age doesn matter .... experience still fails u ... eventually the fact is if u r an emotiomal fool u'l alws remain one.... 
sigh!!! somethngs never change they say ..... hmmm.... the secret is the balance to nt give away urself totally to anythng or anyone... they say balance n be involved yet from a distance.... yup the word i have been looking for is Detachement .... so one has to be in the thick of things n yet stay detached ..weird !! God sure has strange thngs on his mind for us.... he wants us to go on with the game of life... be there n yet be detached enough so that the blows r gentle .... the pains arent crippling n the when the sunsets the night isnt tat fearful ....... hmmm .... tough don u think so... life never ceases to teach us... n everyday i find myself coping with yet another fall out... 
wish i culd be less over the top in the matters of heart n jus learn to chill... when will that day come..m waiting patiently..has been a while .. but i still find the girl in me hurting js the way it did  what seems like an eternity ago .... n time n again i come back to the conclusion tat its all an illusion... its all Dust in the wind......... so don hang on.......  :)

13 comments:

Stillness Speaks said...

The answer is the my last post. Step up and shake off. Life and the people involved never cease to disappoint us. They will continue to do so, until we let them do it. If we decide to deliberately ignore it and look at that one bright ray of light, that will see us through :) Take care

Wanda said...

I think it's necessary to give all "of" yourself...just don't give "up" any part of yourself...there is a difference...every time you may like someone that isn't right for you and they leave...just think that God...while looking out for you...moved them on.

Anand said...

Extremely well writen my dear. And bang on too.

Loved it completely. :-)

Jack said...

Nups,

Many Many Happy Returns of the Day. What date is it supposed to be? What you say is easier said than done. It is very difficult or should I say almost impossible to remain DETACHED while being in thick of things. Only saints may be able to do so.

Take care

nups said...

hi Ashima ..
hope u don mind me addressing u by ur name.... ur previous post is so apt.. we need to shake off n move on alws :) thanks

nups said...

hey Wanda
u r a Granma ... i would say u have been there n done all ... a journey of a wife thru motherhood n finally the grandchildren... i guess its amzing....
do share some wisdom on being a wife... m soon to get married would love to hear from u

nups said...

hi Anand..
hows u glad u liked the post, have been a bit caught up cos of exams lately.. so haven visited u ... will do soon pal :)

nups said...

hey Jack
my bday was on 18th .. thanks :) so hws u.. well its tough to be detached but u knw... if u try n atleast adopt the attitude that nthng lasts forever.. n that "this too shall pass" life sure gets a lot easier.. wat say ?

Stillness Speaks said...

Eeps! So my identity is revealed!! Let's stick to my alias and wait for the day when I announce who I am, if that's fine with you :) I got to know your last name, but I am guessing your first name is Nupur, am I right?

Wanda said...

In reply to your question Nups...about any wisdom I might have about marriage...mostly know and like yourself to start...love is mostly about how that other person makes one feel...never give less than you want from someone in return...and both should be willing to compromise sometimes...Trust and Respect each other...Create traditions and...realize it's the everyday small things that add up to your most treasured memories...Be willing to forgive and not quick to complain...Don't keep secrets...Love each other's families as your own...Both should listen to and speak of their own and the other's needs...Just try to "Be" what you wish them to "Be"...Plus..."really know" that a life time passes quickly...so be appreciative and grateful for each other and say it often....We all need reassurance sometimes!......Take care Nups!

nups said...

hey Ms Stillness...
well... so lets respect our blog identity then n enjoy being anonymous... wat say ;) i too like it tat way :)
m so desperate to write a few posts ..have been on my mind for a while ... jus one more week n i shall be done wit my exams .. sigh till then lemme hold it :)

nups said...

hi Wanda
thanks :) i m gona read it often for it to sink in.... u knw the most imp thing which hit me is to not complain often.. i m learning that..takes a lot of patience i must say :)
well... does a life time passes by realy fast ?? hmmm.... guess u r right.... so no point in wasting it in petty squabbles.... u have a point my lady ! take care

Jack said...

Nups,

" If u try n at least adopt the attitude that nthng lasts forever.. n that 'this too shall pass' life sure gets a lot easier"

I fully agree with you on this. I have always had this thinking when things are not going well with little addition more " God does what is best for me".

Take care