Thursday, May 14, 2009

help me title this one :)

hi there....
i had to shake myself off the gloom n doom i have been going thru since yesterday... i won mope on it for more than is required but will surely tell u guys wat happened... i had one of the worst days of my life yesterday...... i was shouted at in the most inhuman of ways simply cos of my boss's ego was hurt or should i say not fed.... i felt the blow in the pit of my stomach i was so nt expecting such a wild response, so i couldn prepare for the attack....... he said the most derogatory of things,my past 2 yrs seemed jus a waste of time n effort..he questioned everythng from my credibility to my integrity... in short No One HAS EVER treated me as bad as this guy did yesterday.....
after the conversation it took me a few minutes to realise wat hit me... i had to cry to let it off my system, the good thing was that my friends helped by saying the choicest of abuses to him :) n it felt sooooooo good ... Thank God for friends..they r like angels who make u laugh thru ur tears :)
yesterday i realised the futility of us trying to please peeople, i knw i m in shit, cos i m a student registered under him,practically i shud suck upto him ..but i wont... i jus decided to show him the middle finger ( thru my attitude) n move on... the whole of today i was like a zombie in the department..but i was bringing out my survival instincts... i need them now cos LIFE IS TOUGH!!
i read in Coriee's blog that we all have 2 wolves inside us..the gory n the tame .. at times we need to feed the aggressive one n at times the tame one... i need to shift gears,its like diving off thousands of feet above the ground... with ur parachute on ur back... u ned to pull the lever to set u up.... i guess i need to do the same nw.. but m all ready for a good fight... so lets see how i come out of this unique battle of sorts.....

12 comments:

Jack said...

Nups,

You know what is BOSS spelt backward, it is Double S O B. Take it easy. Just think over what caused him to behave in this manner. How was his ego hurt or not boosted? Go about your work and studies as usual as if nothing has happened. Be courtseous to him but keep distance. If you find there was some slip on your part no matter how minor just be magnamonious and say sorry.

You can title this post Boss & Poor Me.

Take care

PS : I will be writing something soon.

nups said...

No jack.. its not poor me.... he is a jerk though and i totally loved the SOB spelt double :) feels good.... hmmmm... u knw when someone gets against u its difficult to "correct" wat went wrng.. cos no matter wat u do they will keep bringing out small things to make ur life hell... i have a few months left here... i knw they r the most crucial... well... God help me....

Corinne Rodrigues said...

Hi Nups - Stopped by after your comment and read your blog....I guess we can't let ordinary 'things' like bosses defeat us! And reacting wouldn't be fun either. I guess the best way to get back is to be your normal, nice self and act as if nothing happened...basically show him he can't get to you!
Hugs
Corinne
PS: Remember Eleanor Roosevelt's words "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent" - well don't consent!

Wanda said...

I agree don't consent...but don't be his doormat to be walked on...Could be that he is embarassed of his actions...hold your head high and do your best job...Mistakes are made...even by bosses.

nups said...

hi Corinne
well thanks for stopping by... ya u r so right i wont consent ..n i won let his judgement demoralise me... thanks again, ur quote helped..
God Bless :)

nups said...

hi Wanda
ya u knw when my conscience is clear i needn worry, but i hate unpleasentness ..guess this time its a matter of my self respect n i shall stick to my guns....
how r u doing dear ... hope alls well at ur end :)

Jack said...

Nups,

You have to swallow this bitter pill but not at the cost of your integrity. Hope he is not singling you out for some hidden motive. If so, tell him off frankly. Be yourself and carry on with normal activities.

Posted one today.

Take care

Adisha said...

Hey Nups,

Sorry to hear about your day dear... I know how it must be sucking right now to even look at him or be around him. But the name of the game is to hold your own and keep at it. Some people just don't know that by acting out they are actually collecting back handed abuses from people whose respect they should be earning...

Just be your best and let time teach the @#$@#$@ a lesson :D

Thanks for your sweet comment on my blog. I've left a msg for you there.

Chin up gurl !! Life is hard, but we are harder :D

Cheers,
adisha

Stillness Speaks said...

Hey Nups...Sorry to read of your bad day! There are people who you just don't get along with but must bear since you work with them/ study with them. The biggest plus is you don't have to spend the rest of your life with them, so it's fine. Before you know it, they'd be out of your life. So try and create happy memories for the small amount of time that they are with you! Take care!

nups said...

hey Adisha
thanks for the encouraging words... yup i knw i need to be diplomatic and brave n many zillion things all at the same time....
i too read ur reply n have left a msg for u...

nups said...

hey stillness
ya i m trying to do exactly that.... in fact i even told myself that there r women who stay with such jerks all their life.... i have only few months left here...i jus have to hang in there...
:)

Adisha said...

left msg for u again .. come to think of it, should have left it here itself ...

ps - 90 % of my friends have gotten married around the time I have, thus the immense knowledge of wedding jitters... let me know if u feel like talking... :)

am adding you to my blog roll ...